I have a problem and was hoping you could help me. I’m supposed to go to a wedding next weekend and have been debating whether to go or NOT. My reason is because I know my ex-boyfriend will be there. I’m really afraid that he’ll show up with a girl and I’ll be forced to have an awkward encounter with him and his new girlfriend. Things didn’t end on best of terms.
I’m nervous, afraid and just don’t know if I’m ready to face it. But I know I HAVE to go because it’s my cousin’s wedding so there’s no getting around it. Do you have any helpful suggestions for me? ANY advice is appreciated. What should I do? HELP!
~ Desperate
Dear Desperate,
It’s hard to face an ex. I think many people have been where you are. What’s important to remember is that you’re there for your cousin and your presence is important to her. Yes, it’s quite possible that he’ll be there with a date, no less. The shock of seeing someone you loved so deeply in a new relationship can be difficult.
What I’d suggest is to psyche yourself up for the event. Prepare yourself in advance mentally and tell yourself he’ll probably be there with a girl. This way, you won’t be so shocked or put off when you do see him. Get all dolled up, get your hair and nails done and do whatever you need to do to feel great about yourself! This part is for you, not him. After all, this is an opportunity to meet new people and share in a happy occasion. Focus on your cousin and her happiness and make the day all about her and be there to support her.
It’s not necessary to say hello to your ex if you don’t feel comfortable with it. Usually a simple smile and a wave will do. 🙂 You might also be so busy you won’t even notice him. Go about the day and enjoy it the best way you can.
This can be a big stepping stone for you and help close that chapter of your life. Best of luck!
